Emotional control

At the age of 28, I still remember being young. Well, ok, I am still young, but I recall being younger, and even sillier.

What I mean to say is, I can remember a time when certain things I know now seemed ridiculous. Life teaches one many things which really only come with time and experience, and I recall enough to know that telling a youngster those things is a waste of time.

One of the things I’m referring to is the ability to control one’s emotions. This is something that even now I struggle with, but I’m beginning to realise it is possible. It is not necessary to give in to anger or fear; reining it in is easier than you might think.

A few times lately I have felt frustration or impatience rising within me, usually related to the behaviour of one or both children. However all it takes to stem that is a quick, deliberate injection of rational thought to the situation.

So I’m bored sitting by Elspeth’s bed for so long waiting for her to sleep? What the hell else would I be doing with that time, I ask myself – and the answer is nothing very interesting or important. Result: instant acceptance of what I’m doing.

So I just had to stop typing this blog post for twenty minutes to play with blocks? Oh no, what a tragedy. The computer isn’t going anywhere. All that I typed was still here when I came back. No big deal.

I think sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in what you’re doing or what you want, and you can forget that in the big scheme of things it really isn’t that important. Reminding yourself of how unimportant so many things really are is a big part of staying calm when those things are interrupted, stopped, or prevented.

Don’t sweat the small stuff.

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7 thoughts on “Emotional control

  1. Chris Cariou says:

    That’s great! It’s so true. I guess the only thing that’s left to figure out is, what’s the small stuff? But even if it’s big, what? Me worry? The main thing you seem to be saying is, it could always be worse.

    • stace8383 says:

      The small stuff is whatever can wait. Whatever isn’t going to cause a major crisis if delayed or neglected. Sometimes it can be hard to figure out what’s really important and what’s not… but when it comes to a choice between sitting in front of Facebook, or sitting by my daughter’s bed to help her sleep – Facebook can bite me!! hehe

  2. And, hold that thought. Because, you will find that when you get much older – let’s say, even older – you will still think the way you did when you were 28-29. The body ages, but the brain remains the same. Many years from now, when I’m not around anymore, remember a blogger buddy told you that little tidbit. It is a very true fact.

  3. Oh, P.S. – Hope all is going well, with the new addition to the family.

  4. B.G. Mitchell says:

    Whenever my writing is interrupted by family ‘commitments’ (curious toddler pulling books of my shelves; pregnant wife wanting dinner earlier than I’d planned) I remind myself to live first and write second.

    Even while writing this comment my daughter ran into my study with her biggest teddy bear and distracted my typing. 🙂

    Live first; write second.

  5. […] last year, I blogged about emotional control. I essentially said that we all have a choice in how we react to things, and it really isn’t […]

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